Self awareness sound obvious doesn’t it? But what does it actually mean? Self awareness is one of the first things we develop as babies probably at 18 months or so. When we feel we are a separate being from our caregivers. But we are not aware of it all the time and who we are emerges at different points depending upon the situation and our personality.
Our self awareness is split into two our public and private self-awareness. The public self awareness is obvious you know when you are really aware of people focusing on you, like giving a presentation at work and all eyes are on you. It’s when we comply, fit in or act in a way that pleases others. When you are really aware people are looking at you and you want them to like you – your public self-awareness comes out usually with nerves or anxiety about how people feel about you.
Private self awareness happens when you are alone, when you see yourself and maybe don’t like what you see, when you feel that sinking feeling when you have forgotten someone important birthday. You are very aware of yourself and how you feel and in both cases this self awareness is all about the negative issues you have.
Private self awareness of all those negative things can lead to a heightened feeling of sadness or anxiety and you remain focused on the ‘bad’ version of yourself. But self awareness needs to encompass all of you and you need to be highly aware of the good things too! Self awareness is understanding your personality, behaviours, emotional reactions, and thought processes. Being self-aware allows us to understand our reactions and some of the choices we have made that did not work out.
Something we need to know are –
- What do you really believe about yourself, your abilities and boundaries
- What are you good at and what is your weaknesses
- What are your spiritual beliefs
- What do you want in a relationship
- Your likes and dislikes
- What does money mean to you
- What is your life passion
Now answer the question ‘ who am I?’ without referring to what you do for a living, where you live and who you are in a relationship with. It’s hard as we have so little awareness of ourselves.
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