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Love Compatibility

September 30, 2013

All of us are simply not happy when we’re with someone where there is a lack of love compatibility.  We don’t always pick partners for the right reasons. We might be drawn to someone for unconscious reasons based on issues from our childhood. The behaviour and likes (scripts) we formed in our childhood allowed us to adapt and in some cases survive how we grew up in, however they come back to haunt us in our love relationships (and many others).

We tend to chose partners who treat us like we were treated by our family, so our adaptations work really well and we feel ‘at home’ with our partner. On an unconscious level, we are often looking for people who are not ideal for us but allow us to play out that script again, no matter how destructive it was. At first, this pattern may seem comfortable and familiar based on how we behaved in childhood.  But later on we find ourselves feeling like we did as a child and wondering where this initial love compatibility has gone!

This is why we should never look for love compatibility to ‘complete me’ as the famous quote from the film stated. People often make the mistake of assuming there is only one “soul mate” or one person they will have this true love compatibility .They believe that that person will complement and fulfil them in every way, often ignoring the fact they should look for a lot of this from inside themselves. Then they reject potential partners who could have a true love compatibility with as they do not fit in to an image they have created.

True love compatibility only exists when a couple have love and respect; there is equality and fairness in the relationship along with fun and laughter. One of the most important ways to keep true love compatibility is communication, open, honest and fair, without anger and spite wherever possible.

To be honest even when you find true love compatibility with someone, they will not share all of your interests or meet all of your needs.  It is also important to have friendships, a broader base of support and companionship, so you can fulfil all aspects of yourself.

Even when you find that true love compatibility there will be issues in any relationship; no one is perfect. However there are many potential partners you may be compatible with and with whom you could develop your ability to be a loving person.

If you feel that your love compatibility match is still out there and what some help with that give us a call on 01302 513 272 in the UK or 813699 4241 in the USA

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