Rediscovering Yourself After Depression
Living with depression is very hard. Sometimes we can get so used to struggle every day, that we find it difficult to imagine a life in which every day is easy. We can’t grasp the idea that other people’s happiness are real. I think that when we are suffering from depression, we lose our identity. Sometimes we lose our ability to express ourselves, we lose interest in what we used to love to do, we push away the people we love the most, and we carry on, just trying to act normal.
Some of us get so used to live a miserable life, that we can forget how life can be wonderful. No matter where you are in life, if you are not happy, and if you feel that your passions in life no longer excites you, and the people in your life no longer inspires you, there is a light in the end of the tunnel. Start your healing process by getting your emotions out and asking for support without guilt. If you feel poorly about yourself, learn to challenge your self talk in order to develop positive thinking habits. The more negative thoughts we have, the worse we feel. Make a decision that today will be a better day by making a list of:
-What brings joy in your life;
-Qualities that other people appreciate in you;
-What you like about yourself;
-Things you have accomplished in the past;
In order to create a more positive life and rediscover yourself, you need to identify your values or priorities, in order to create positive goals to your life. Search for the deep desires in your heart, and it will tell you what will make your life happier. Think about the things that are important to you in life. Your ability to focus on positive thoughts and discover the activities that you love to do, can increase your positive emotions, and help you to fight the depressed mood. Create a list of small, manageable goals that address things that are within your power to change.
During your depression, you may have lost relationships, jobs, direction, hobbies, your health, dreams and goals, and your self-confidence. The desire to change all aspects of your life at once can be overwhelming, that’s why it’s important to use the lists you’ve made earlier, and focus to change small parts of each area of your life, according to your priorities. Once you do that, you will find it easier to focus on the positive aspects of your life. Try to stay active and busy. Physical activity can improve your mood immensely, and it can help reduce the likelihood that your depressive symptoms will return.
Learning to live a positive life after depression can be like learning to walk again. Depression can become a part of us, and it knows all our secrets and weaknesses. This illness can make all the aspects that makes us unique, disappear. It can leave us in a place of hopelessness. But, step by step, you can start from nothing, and build yourself up personally and professionally. For some people, recovering is about learning to see the world differently, realising all the progress they’ve made that they may be ignoring, and learn to socialise with others again.
Never compare yourself to others, or your achievements with other people’s achievements. As you walk the path toward your recovery, try to understand that your process may be different from others, and be proud of yourself for trying living by your values, every day. Remember to keep your faith through hard times, and remind yourself of what makes you special. It takes a lot of courage and ups and downs to become who you truly are.