It’s perfectly fine to feel your emotions and express yourself accordingly. The problem arises when you start to react in a bigger way than justified. Anger is a way to try to invalidate whoever or whatever led you to feel invalidated. If you allow anger to take over you, to take over your life, it will eventually control you, and you will never be able to find peace and calmness. When you react to a negative situation, your mind generates fear and anger. It is important to be aware of your emotions and learn to respond to situations instead of reacting to them. Sometimes, the reasons you generate anger aren’t always real. If you aren’t aware of how your mind works, your imagination may take over and create negative scenarios all the time. You become an angry person, who blames other people unnecessarily for your emotions. Your emotions respond the same whether a threat is real or part of your imagination. When you’re aware of your feelings and understand your triggers, you are able to pause before responding.
When you are angry, the one in charge of your life no longer is you, but your emotions. Peace means feeling in control. Being able to control your emotions depends on how much you feed a particular emotion; on how much you focus on what you are afraid of or enraged by. To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this, you need to experience calmness, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions. It’s impossible to live a happy life when the ones in charge of your life and your well being are your moods, your emotions and your feelings.
If anger is controlling you life and making you miserable, be honest with God, yourself, and others. Take responsibility for it. Don’t deny or suppress your anger. Acknowledge that anger is a powerful emotion that you must deal with carefully so it won’t destroy your life, and the life of others around you. Anger never helps anyone. It wastes your energy, and hurts your health, spoils your relationships, and causes you to miss opportunities. Getting angry is acting against your best interests. Think about what is triggering your anger, and ask God for guidance and peace. Acknowledge that anger is a negative reaction, and if you wish to progress on the path of self-improvement or spiritual growth, you need to let go of blame, shame, pride, insecurity, and any addictions that is contributing to your anger, and is taking your peace away from you. Use your faith to support yourself, and understand that your future can be bright.
Reacting without thinking is an irrational way to act. Responding, on the other hand, is taking the situation in, and deciding the best course of action based on values such as reason, compassion and cooperation. We don’t have to act immediately just because we have an internal reaction. We can pause, not act, breathe. We can watch this urge to act irrationally arise, then let it go away. So, next time you are angry, remember to PAUSE. Watch the reaction go away. You will notice your anger reaction, but take a breath, and watch your emotions. Pay close attention to how your mind react. Your life will change when you understand that there is no sense of allowing circumstances and people to affect your peace of mind. Redirect your energy by asking God to transform your negative feelings of anger into positive actions. You are able to revert this energy into something useful and productive, like physical exercise for example.
Be smart and use all your negative past experiences to improve the life you live now. You are able to maintain an inner attitude of emotional and mental peace, and refuse to allow anger to be part of your life. Anger is the opposite of peace. When you are not in control of your feelings, you fail to see the bright side in every situation. Reserve some time for yourself in order to meditate and cultivate peace and calmness. Peace allows you to renew, heal, and create reserves of energy that keeps you motivated and focused.