We all know that we shouldn’t be affected by any kind of rejection, but the truth is that we are always looking for acceptance in life. Feeling rejected, isolated and lonely tend to affect our mental and physical health. Feeling rejected can also affect our perception of life, our sleeping routine, our immune system. This negative feeling can take away the joy from our lives, but at the same time, being rejected is actually part of life. It can happen in your romantic life, your career, or friendships.
People that feel rejected may face exclusion more often because being rejected makes them depressed. If you suffer from anxiety you may be constantly worried about being socially rejected. When negative thoughts about being rejected shows up, it is important to challenge those thoughts with positive affirmations, and remember that you should never take things personally. Keep in mind that resilient people know that rejection is a positive sign that they’re living life to the fullest. Nobody is rejected in their comfort zone, so if you dare to try new things, you can expect to be rejected sometimes.
We live in a society where we constantly compare ourselves to others. We judge ourselves on how smart we are, on how good we look, or how successful we are in comparison to others. But when we feel rejected, our view of the world is usually negative. People who feel excluded often get used to nurture negative thoughts and find it difficult to get out of this negative circle.
A rejection shouldn’t make you think that this is the way things will always be. Every time I catch myself feeling inferior, I remember that no one can make me feel inferior without my consent. The truth is that rejection does not tell others who I am or who you are. We need to love and honour ourselves, in order to empower our subconscious mind, and stop feelings of failure and rejection blocking us from achieving what we want in life. Our thoughts are incredibly powerful. It only takes 30 seconds of thinking of a negative thought for it to become part of our subconscious, but meditation can often help us to train our minds to release negativity instead of holding onto it. You should accept the bumps in the road as well as certain aspects of your personality as you’re developing towards a better you. Believe in yourself and your abilities and realise that your negative thoughts are not facts.
Here is what you can do in order to fight feelings of rejection and practice self acceptance:
Try dedicating some moments of your day to show yourself some self compassion. This can make a great impact on your wellbeing, and remind you that you are an unique person with a lot of good traits.
Surround yourself with successful people. Think about the people who inspire you, and push you to do better in life in order to feel motivated to achieve your own dreams.
Try to find things that make you smile and laugh every day. Make sure your spare time is spent on something that will nurture your mind and spirit.
Focus on growing in something that you know and enjoy. Know yourself enough to determine what you are good at.
Get rid of your fears. Letting go of fear can help you to accept things as they come.
Overcoming rejection and feeling better about yourself may not be easy, but it can be done. Remember that setbacks in life offer us the chance to get up, learn from the experience, and move on with our lives. If someone is not giving you the respect that you deserve, remind yourself that someone else will. See every setback as an opportunity to grow and try again. You need to realise that you are too special to be compared to anyone else, because your individual gifts and abilities are what make you unique and amazing.